Changing the Heart of Violence: Helping Others to Stand On Their Own Two Feet
The “Cookie” and the “Pie.”
A story of how the daily, personal, interactions of life can change the violence in this world.
At a social luncheon this inherently wise mother responds to her child’s request:
“Can I have a cookie?”
“Yes, and bring me one too.”
Her wisdom is that she confirmed that there are good things in life that she wants her child to enjoy; and she also enjoys this particular thing.
A little while later, her husband comes up to her and says,
“Hey, have you tried the pie!”
Much of violence is rooted in a hardened, broken, lost, or empty heart. There is also the heart needing companionship in which a common enemy serves in a bonding and sustaining role.
Perhaps this is a good moment in the history of human beings to initiate an effort of saying to others who are acting violent, or bullying, or killing people:
“Hey, guess what.
I also have a heart problem. My heart is hurting too.
In ways you can’t imagine.
And guess what;
I constantly pray for my heart to be changed.”
We need to offer to "Share the Pie."
“Ask and you will receive.” “Taste and see.” “Spread the good news.”
Calling upon our leaders to publicly proclaim this “message” to those who are caught up in violence would be a bold, direct confrontation in a peaceful and loving and heart-to-heart way.
Of importance is: leading with the "heart approach" gives an opportunity for reconciliation where it did not previously exist.
Often we have no response to violence but more actions “against” others. Actions “for” someone’s benefit, rather than against, are better received. Plus, doesn’t start a cycle of confrontation. (Does make for good politics and political manipulation though.)
At the same time a method of obtaining closure to a harmful situation must be accessed, or the cycle continues. The use of these types of life navigational skills are actually some of the most fundamental assets to successful living. Yet are not so easily accessed or offered or taught.
So much of enjoyable living is not obtained, or lost, because of these specific life issues.
It is easier, less difficult, more fun to discuss motivation, success planning, technical gaming, networking, etc. However the holistic approach is the reality of what holds everything together. Body/Mind/Spirit.
Of course there is the need to teach the ways of non-violence. The simple response of “if someone hits you, hit back” does not always successfully work in the real world of today. The “moral justification” for violence is taught this way. Also created is the false notion that battle victory is on the side of the justified. The better fighter is the one who “wins.” It is also a token way of making someone an enemy if they cause you pain or anxiety. And you just hardened your own heart.
There are many basics assumed as already understood or known. It is better to be repetitious for assurance of reception. Plus people relate in different ways so a wide variety of approaches simultaneously given may sound boring, but also fulfills the need for repetitive advice. This is why our daily actions speak louder than words. There has to be a balance between entertaining and instructing. There is a place where sacrificing the thrills of the entertainment crowd is required to meet the needs of those who are there to be informed.
Holistically speaking, the reality is that there are times for violence; but the heart attitude must be pure. Not in anger; but in a hierarchy of love. A last resort. There is a tactical sense of timing for victory. And there is a moral sense of timing in victory.
Of note: One of the top medical Doctors in the world, whose life is focused on saving lives and the value of life, responded when asked what he would do if caught up in a mass shooting replied: I would say "Let's all charge at once, he can only shoot one of us at a time. We can overpower him and save lives. (This is also a tactic now being taught in schools. A U.S. Marine had actually done this at the incident being referred to.)"
There is a Bible text that says there is no greater love than someone laying down their live for someone else. Taking the "love risk" and saying that you have an answer to their "broken heart problem" gives the opportunity for stopping the violence at its source. And an entire lifestyle. There are always early signs of a heart problem.
The violent blow-up is usually another symptom of a heart's life style that needs to be changed for the person's benefit, as well as for others.
The greater rewards of a "good heart" are unobtainable because by definition these "wonderful things" are the benefits of a "good heart." "Loving relationships" are not present; only the external token/symbolism, if even that. Seeking out these people; planting the seeds of love and a changing heart is often the "laying down of our own lives for another person." As the Doctor said, "charge right into the danger knowing that others will live. Plus, it doesn't mean that you will always die in the process. It takes a lot to kill someone.
The information on the good and proper ways to navigate have to be passed on. Included is the cumulative and/or lifelong effects of actions. Too much effort is placed on “correcting.” More effort needs to be placed on "teaching." As “good things” are found, they need to be shared and passed on. Love takes away fear.
Like “cookies and pies.”
Other life navigational skills in the content material at beinggifted.com include:
“Empowerment (and closure) via Intimidation, Adversity, and Bullying.”
“Obtaining “Oneness in the Chaos.”
“Hazards of Giftedness: Pride, Jealousy, Competition, etc.
Thanks Julie for sharing your story and wisdom, again.
Oneness in the Chaos
Why Plan A,B,C.
Giftedness-Oneness
Oneness/Lonliness/Faith
The Error in Giving 110%
Developing Oneness via Driving (video)
Oneness Demo via Archery Draw (video)
Create oneness with piano (video)
Create oneness with guitar (video)
A story of how the daily, personal, interactions of life can change the violence in this world.
At a social luncheon this inherently wise mother responds to her child’s request:
“Can I have a cookie?”
“Yes, and bring me one too.”
Her wisdom is that she confirmed that there are good things in life that she wants her child to enjoy; and she also enjoys this particular thing.
A little while later, her husband comes up to her and says,
“Hey, have you tried the pie!”
Much of violence is rooted in a hardened, broken, lost, or empty heart. There is also the heart needing companionship in which a common enemy serves in a bonding and sustaining role.
Perhaps this is a good moment in the history of human beings to initiate an effort of saying to others who are acting violent, or bullying, or killing people:
“Hey, guess what.
I also have a heart problem. My heart is hurting too.
In ways you can’t imagine.
And guess what;
I constantly pray for my heart to be changed.”
We need to offer to "Share the Pie."
“Ask and you will receive.” “Taste and see.” “Spread the good news.”
Calling upon our leaders to publicly proclaim this “message” to those who are caught up in violence would be a bold, direct confrontation in a peaceful and loving and heart-to-heart way.
Of importance is: leading with the "heart approach" gives an opportunity for reconciliation where it did not previously exist.
Often we have no response to violence but more actions “against” others. Actions “for” someone’s benefit, rather than against, are better received. Plus, doesn’t start a cycle of confrontation. (Does make for good politics and political manipulation though.)
At the same time a method of obtaining closure to a harmful situation must be accessed, or the cycle continues. The use of these types of life navigational skills are actually some of the most fundamental assets to successful living. Yet are not so easily accessed or offered or taught.
So much of enjoyable living is not obtained, or lost, because of these specific life issues.
It is easier, less difficult, more fun to discuss motivation, success planning, technical gaming, networking, etc. However the holistic approach is the reality of what holds everything together. Body/Mind/Spirit.
Of course there is the need to teach the ways of non-violence. The simple response of “if someone hits you, hit back” does not always successfully work in the real world of today. The “moral justification” for violence is taught this way. Also created is the false notion that battle victory is on the side of the justified. The better fighter is the one who “wins.” It is also a token way of making someone an enemy if they cause you pain or anxiety. And you just hardened your own heart.
There are many basics assumed as already understood or known. It is better to be repetitious for assurance of reception. Plus people relate in different ways so a wide variety of approaches simultaneously given may sound boring, but also fulfills the need for repetitive advice. This is why our daily actions speak louder than words. There has to be a balance between entertaining and instructing. There is a place where sacrificing the thrills of the entertainment crowd is required to meet the needs of those who are there to be informed.
Holistically speaking, the reality is that there are times for violence; but the heart attitude must be pure. Not in anger; but in a hierarchy of love. A last resort. There is a tactical sense of timing for victory. And there is a moral sense of timing in victory.
Of note: One of the top medical Doctors in the world, whose life is focused on saving lives and the value of life, responded when asked what he would do if caught up in a mass shooting replied: I would say "Let's all charge at once, he can only shoot one of us at a time. We can overpower him and save lives. (This is also a tactic now being taught in schools. A U.S. Marine had actually done this at the incident being referred to.)"
There is a Bible text that says there is no greater love than someone laying down their live for someone else. Taking the "love risk" and saying that you have an answer to their "broken heart problem" gives the opportunity for stopping the violence at its source. And an entire lifestyle. There are always early signs of a heart problem.
The violent blow-up is usually another symptom of a heart's life style that needs to be changed for the person's benefit, as well as for others.
The greater rewards of a "good heart" are unobtainable because by definition these "wonderful things" are the benefits of a "good heart." "Loving relationships" are not present; only the external token/symbolism, if even that. Seeking out these people; planting the seeds of love and a changing heart is often the "laying down of our own lives for another person." As the Doctor said, "charge right into the danger knowing that others will live. Plus, it doesn't mean that you will always die in the process. It takes a lot to kill someone.
The information on the good and proper ways to navigate have to be passed on. Included is the cumulative and/or lifelong effects of actions. Too much effort is placed on “correcting.” More effort needs to be placed on "teaching." As “good things” are found, they need to be shared and passed on. Love takes away fear.
Like “cookies and pies.”
Other life navigational skills in the content material at beinggifted.com include:
“Empowerment (and closure) via Intimidation, Adversity, and Bullying.”
“Obtaining “Oneness in the Chaos.”
“Hazards of Giftedness: Pride, Jealousy, Competition, etc.
Thanks Julie for sharing your story and wisdom, again.
Oneness in the Chaos
Why Plan A,B,C.
Giftedness-Oneness
Oneness/Lonliness/Faith
The Error in Giving 110%
Developing Oneness via Driving (video)
Oneness Demo via Archery Draw (video)
Create oneness with piano (video)
Create oneness with guitar (video)